Being A Quitter

Posted on August 28, 2012 11:19 pm under General

Earlier this year, I wrote a congratulatory post for a friend, who hadn’t had a cigarette in three months. When we talked last week, Ed sheepishly admitted that he had fallen off the wagon. He seemed to be waiting for me to scold him. If so, he’s still waiting. Beating smoking is tough and I don’t think that adding guilt to the mix helps. Whether we are struggling to lose weight, exercise more, or worry less, we all have experienced the difficulty of changing deeply engrained habits. For baby boomers, who were brought up with cigarette ads in all the media and a childhood introduction to smoking through candy cigarettes and adult role models smoking everything from filterless cigarettes to perdomo cigars.

My brother, who quit his cigarette habit and lost weight, claims that weight control is harder. “I still have to eat”, he explained. “That’s a bit like having to smoke just three cigarettes a day.” He’s got a point, but a musician friend, who frequently plays in smoky bars and lounges, disagrees. “If I want to lose weight, I keep the refrigerator stocked with lean meats and vegetables. I avoid restaurants for a while. How can I avoid my job?”

Experts tell us to form a plan of action, to enlist the support of friends and to write down our reasons for making the change. That is good advice. Still, when you’ve had a tough day, it is easy to reach for that cigarette, avoid that workout or indulge in that cream puff. So I’m not going to be throwing guilt at Ed or anybody else. Ed plans to give it another try after Labor Day. I’ll be cheering for him.

2 Responses to “Being A Quitter”

  1. PetsBlogs Says:

    You are very wise! Negatives are such a great part of our society, just watch the news. Positives go a lot farther in any situation. I also smoke and would love to quit and have tried before. Those that berate for ‘falling off the wagon’ are of no help! Loving encouragement goes so much further.

  2. Pat Says:

    Hurray for Ed to keep on with making an effort to quit smoking! My dad started smoking in his late teens and tried in his 40s and 50s to quit smoking, about 5 or 6 (or more) times. It wasn’t until he was around 60 that he saw a dark spot on an x-ray of his lungs that he quit. It scared him so much that he quit cold turkey and never started smoking again.